Monday, March 7, 2016

Where I Am Today

I always think of things in my head about what I want to say & share, but somehow get distracted with my household and work and never get to write them out. SO much has happened. I am not the same girl I was 7+ years ago when I originally started this blog (all my old posts have been removed because some of them now make me cringe), which is good, because I sure as hell hope in 7 years we have all evolved into a better version of ourselves! I began writing as an escape from my miserable life. My health sucked, I drank like crazy, smoked, and was married to a narcissistic psychopath which is a big part of why I did the aforementioned things. I developed a sense of humor, was very crass and just didn't give a fuck, to be honest. I always say people that are funny that their humor stems from a place of pain. Being ridiculous and making myself laugh is what kept me "sane". One day I came on-line and started to read other people's blogs and commenting on their posts and getting to know them. Then I figured - why not just begin my own? And I did. And then I joined another blog with 2 other ladies and we all collaborated together and were the "Scandalous Housewives". Being a "scandalous housewife" really saved my life at that time. That blog no longer exists today, either, and that chapter is closed and we have all moved on with our lives. I cherish those times I had with Scandy & Lushess, and Suburbia Steph has always stuck with me ever since. I'll get into HOW that saved my life another time, but today, I just wanted to give a quick update where I am TODAY. I still live in my little slice of Suburbia, TX! I am re-married now (to my Viejo!), and had another daughter in 2011, bringing my grand total and FINAL count of children to 4! I am now 40, my kids are 4, 8 (9 next month!), 14 & 16. Add to that 2 crazy ass kittens (one I am convinced is actually a squirrel), and my life is full of more love (and a little insanity) than ever. I have cleaned up my act and settled down. I still have the mouth of a sailor, which my Viejo hates ~ but who the hell is he to judge me? I can change my ways, but you cannot take my sentence enhancers away from me!! Here are some pics of me & my crew: Sadly, I just realized I really don't have any of my teenagers. They are like ghosts, but I promise you, they DO exist! Well, this is a BIG week for me with lots of changes to ME, personally ~ but I'll save that for later. Wishing you all a day filled with love and laughter!! xo, Suburbia Steph

Are You Bitter or Better?

I was telling someone the other day that I am grateful for the rough times in my life because they gave me a greater appreciation for life in general and those times helped to mold me into the person I am today. You can either choose to let people & circumstances make you BITTER, or you can choose to let them make you BETTER. Take the higher road. When you are harboring hatred, jealousy, or wanting to plan out someone else's demise to "make them pay" or "bring them down" - you are only hurting YOU. Don't do that to yourself! Trust me when I tell you, life has a funny way of working things out on their own without you having to become an angry, vindictive person that winds up sounding and looking like a whacko. When you behave this way, you become just as bad - if not worse, than the person who hurt you. Let it go. Believe me when I tell you that you will come to a place one day where you will want to THANK them - and be thankful for those difficult times. As the saying goes, hate is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Sit back, take a deep breath, and put things into perspective & make a plan to move forward by focusing on things that bring you HAPPINESS. To be STRONG is to move on & keep going, to be WEAK is to let it consume you & bring you down. The CHOICE (because it IS a choice) is up to you ~

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Happy Texas Independence Day!

It's Texas Independence Day, y'all! 🇨🇱❤ I'll always be a Texas Girl ~ my home where everything is BIGGER, the stars at night shine shine big & bright, Tex-Mex food, wide open skies, where you can experience ALL 4 seasons in just 1 day, and Texan pride. 🇨🇱❤

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Long Time No See!!

It has been forever and a day it seems since I have been here. I'm not even sure anyone even uses Blogger anymore, or will ever see or read this, but I still have my account here and figured now was a good time to come back & get in the groove of things and put my thoughts into text. I mean, how totally selfish of me to keep all these things to myself!! I made ALL my previous posts from when I originally started here (2008-2009) private because where my life is TODAY, is a vastly different place than it was then. I strayed away after 2009, and made ONE post back in July 2010, and I have been silent ever since. Needless to say, a LOT has happened. Today is March 1, 2016, and the bitch - er, um, Suburbia Steph, is BACK! While I think the events that have taken place in my life are probably insignificant to others, I have found that by opening myself up & sharing my personal life experiences may be just what someone else needs to hear (or read, rather). EVERYONE has a story that deserves to be heard. So, here I go ~